Navigating Emotions for Teens — در این ویدئو از مجموعه Bridging Differences for Parents and Teens نشان داده میشود چگونه میتوان آگاهی نسبت به احساسات را در نوجوانان تقویت کرد، بدون اینکه گرفتار قضاوت کردن آنها شویم 😊
ملاقات و صحبت با آدمهای ناآشنا میتواند مجموعهای از احساسات را به همراه داشته باشد؛ هم میتواند هیجانانگیز باشد و هم اضطرابآور. نوجوانان بهخاطر ارزش دادن به پل زدن روی اختلافها ممکن است میل داشته باشند دیدگاه دیگران را بفهمند، اما اضطراب میتواند مانع این تلاش شود.
بهعنوان والدین، میتوانیم با تمرین «acceptance» به نوجوانان کمک کنیم تا احساسات پیچیدهای که هنگام روبهرو شدن با افراد متفاوت سراغشان میآید را بهتر مدیریت کنند. در اینجا منظور از acceptance یعنی آگاه بودن ذهنی نسبت به احساسها و حسهای جسمی؛ بهطور هدفمند به احساسات و وضعیت بدن در لحظه توجه کردن، بدون اینکه روی قضاوت یا سرکوب آنها گیر کنیم.
در این ویدئو، Matt قدم اول را برای گفتوگو با دختر نوجوانش، Luna، دربارهٔ چگونگی هدایت احساسات با رویکرد پذیرش برداشته است. این فرایند به والدین و نوجوانان کمک میکند تا با مهربانی و حضور ذهن درباره احساسات صحبت کنند و راههایی برای کنار آمدن با اضطراب در موقعیتهای جدید یاد بگیرند.
اگر میخواهید بیشتر با تمرین «Navigating Emotions» و سایر روشهای گامبهگام آشنا شوید، میتوانید از کتابخانهای از تمرینهای مبتنی بر پژوهش استفاده کنید تا نوجوانان مهارتهای پل زدن روی تفاوتها را یاد بگیرند.
این، چهارمین ویدئو از سری «Parenting to Nurture Skills to Bridge Differences» است.
Facilitator: Dhaarmika Coelho، مؤسس Camp Kindness Counts 🎗️
Production Company: Anaconda Street Productions
Partners on the Bridging Differences Parenting Practices: Generation Citizen و Making Caring Common
Transcription
MATT: My name is Matt. My daughter is Luna. She is 17 years old. I love my daughter. She is very headstrong, very independent already, very smart.
LUNA: My name is Luna. I like drawing. I like board games. Going out with friends, video games, fashion, makeup.
MATT: I try to be understanding with everything of hers. The thing that I do wrong with our communication– the big problem is I tend to cut her off, more because I know where she’s going with it.
LUNA: And I get mad at him every time for it because I don’t know what he thinks I’m going to say, but most of the time, he’s wrong. And it just makes the situation worse because then I get mad at him and then he’s getting mad because I’m getting mad at him.
MATT: She’ll call me out. She’ll say, “Dad, you’re still not listening”, or she’ll roll her eyes. That’s probably the biggest call out right there, is the eye roll.
LUNA: I would love to improve our communication.
DHAARMIKA: Matt and Luna have gone through a D as parent and teen, but also just as individuals. And they both are each other’s motivation. I’d like to invite you both– but maybe with you, Matt first. As we’re exploring our emotions and talking about them, can you think of a time that you felt really nervous in a situation. And I’d like to invite you to share that with Luna.
MATT: Yeah, OK.
DHAARMIKA: Matt takes a first step to talk with his teen, Luna, about navigating emotions through acceptance. Acceptance involves being mindfully aware of emotions and physical sensations, by purposefully paying attention to your inner feelings and your body without getting hung up on judging them.
MATT: When my dad passed, I was really young– I 13 years old and I shut myself off. If it wasn’t for my daughter, I don’t think I would have wanted to connect to anything or anyone again. But when I knew I was going to be a dad, I knew I had to. And I did. And it’s helped me out a lot, especially like anywhere. I just can– I communicate and I can connect with people. And if it wasn’t for her, I wouldn’t have.
DHAARMIKA: I see you smiling.
LUNA: That was heart-touching.
DHAARMIKA: Yes. During this activity, parents can guide their teens to reflect on questions like what do I notice in my body? How are these sensations related to emotions I am feeling? Can I make space to allow my emotions just to be? Do you want to ask Luna if she has ever felt nervous–
LUNA: Yeah, I do.
DHAARMIKA: And how she was able to navigate those emotions and accept them?
MATT: So how about you, Luna– what in your life has made you super nervous or super scared, and how did you work past it?
LUNA: I think– OK, I know. I know people have made me nervous. They still do. But I’m there, so I just live through it, deal with it, learn how to read people so I know how to communicate with different types of people. So it’s not just a specific person I can talk to– it’s everyone.
MATT: The only thing we all have in common is our emotion. As the one thing that is constant between human to human and to human is that we all feel.
DHAARMIKA: Yes.
MATT: Now, it may differ on what we feel, but we all feel.
DHAARMIKA: I think when Matt and Luna navigated their emotions through that practice, they learned a lot about themselves. They got closer. They understood each other better.
LUNA: I realized how much he’s affected my life. I really see it more than I did before.
MATT: I learned a lot about my child, that I didn’t know how much she really listens to what I’m teaching. Most of the time, I think because she’s a teenager, it’s just went in one ear, out the other kind of deal. [LAUGHS] But no, a lot of it’s sticking.
LUNA: Learning how to navigate emotions with my dad helps me navigate emotions with others, because it’s easier to practice with family than it is with random people, because random people won’t understand it like family does.
MATT: Love you, sweetie. ❤️
LUNA: Love you. 💕
